Why Love and Money Flow to Those Who Don’t Lack Them? – A woman I know was cheated on in her marriage. Heartbroken, she left him.Later, she met another man—equally disappointing. And then a third, who turned out to be just as bad.
She is not what the world calls “special.” She is not beautiful in a striking way. She doesn’t earn much. She is the kind of woman you might pass on the street without noticing. Very ordinary.
One day, with tears in her eyes, she came to me and asked:
“Do I not deserve love? Why can’t I just have a good relationship? Where is my person?”
Her question pierced me. Because behind it was not just her pain—it was the pain of many women, and many men too, who feel they are forever chasing love that never stays, and money that never arrives.
And here is the brutal fact:
Love always flows to those who don’t lack love. And money always flows to those who don’t lack money.
It sounds unfair, doesn’t it? But when you look deeper, you’ll see this is not cruelty from life—it is a principle of abundance. And once you understand it, you can begin to change your story.
Why Love Flows to Those Who Don’t Lack Love
Think about the people you’ve met who always seem surrounded by affection and attention. They may not be movie stars or millionaires, but they radiate something magnetic. Why does love flow to them so easily?
1. They love themselves first
People who don’t lack love don’t wait for others to make them happy. They buy themselves flowers, they laugh at their own jokes, they nurture hobbies, and they carry joy in the small details of life.
When you already feel full, you don’t send out the desperate signal of “please save me.” You send out the signal of “I am whole.” And that attracts.
2. They know their worth
Those who don’t lack love aren’t afraid to set boundaries. They won’t accept a toxic partner just to avoid being alone. Their self-respect creates a filter: the wrong people fall away, the right people draw closer.
3. They carry a calm confidence
Love is magnetic when it feels light. When someone is relaxed, kind to themselves, and genuinely at ease, others want to be near them.
If you want to explore what lasting love looks like in real life, read my post Celebrating 18 Years of Marriage: Lessons on Love, Growth, and Lasting Happiness
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Why Money Flows to Those Who Don’t Lack Money
The same principle applies to money. If you’ve ever wondered why “the rich get richer,” it’s not always luck—it’s mindset, environment, and action.
1. They think about growth, not survival
Someone who feels financially secure doesn’t spend all their energy worrying about bills. They focus on opportunities. They ask, “How can I multiply this?” rather than, “How can I hold on tightly?”
That mindset shift alone changes everything.
2. They can afford to take risks
If you only have $100, you cling to it. But if you have $100,000, you may risk $10,000 on a new project. Some risks fail, but some succeed—and those successes compound wealth.
3. They are in circles of opportunity
Money doesn’t just flow through effort; it flows through networks. Those with resources are often surrounded by others with resources, which means they hear about new deals, investments, or openings that those in scarcity never encounter.
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What About Those Who Feel Empty?
At this point, you might feel discouraged. “If love and money only go to those who already have them, what about me? Am I doomed?”
No.
The principle is not meant to shut you out—it’s meant to show you where to begin. The key is this: you must first become the one who doesn’t lack.
Not by faking it. Not by pretending you’re rich or deeply loved when you’re not. But by shifting how you treat yourself, how you see yourself, and how you use what you already have.
How to Begin Shifting From Lack to Abundance
1. Fill your own cup
If you crave love, begin with yourself.
- Take yourself out for coffee.
- Buy the book you’ve been wanting.
- Speak kindly to yourself in the mirror.
When you give yourself the love you long for, you stop showing up in relationships with desperation. You show up whole.
2. Change your relationship with money
Even if your income is small, you can begin shifting from scarcity to creation.
- Set aside a small “growth” fund—even $10 a month—that you dedicate to investing in yourself (a course, a tool, a book).
- Look for ways to add value, not just save. Could you start a side hustle, use a skill, or share knowledge online?
The goal is not to “get rich overnight.” It’s to plant seeds that will keep growing.
3. Move from dependence to independence
When your happiness depends entirely on one partner, one job, or one outcome, you give away your power.
Independence means building a foundation so that you can stand on your own. When you are steady, love and money come to you—not because you chase them, but because you no longer repel them with fear.
Scarcity vs. Abundance
Scarcity whispers: “There is not enough. I must cling. I must beg.”
Abundance whispers: “I am enough. More will come.”
When you live in scarcity, relationships feel heavy, money slips away, and life feels like a battle. But when you live in abundance—even if you have little—you begin to see opportunities, attract healthier people, and experience small wins that grow into big ones.
This is why love and money flow to those who don’t lack them. Not because life is unfair, but because life multiplies what already exists.
Three Simple Practices to Start Today
Here are three practical ways to start moving from lack to abundance:
- Gratitude journal
Each night, write down three things you are grateful for. This shifts your attention from what’s missing to what’s already present. - Personal joy fund
Save a small amount every month—no matter how tiny—and spend it on something that makes you smile. This retrains your mind to see money as a tool for joy, not only for stress. - Mirror affirmations
Each morning, look at yourself and say: “I am worthy of love. I am worthy of abundance. I am enough.” Over time, your subconscious begins to align with this truth.
Conclusion: Becoming the One Who Doesn’t Lack
So yes, love flows to those who don’t lack love. Money flows to those who don’t lack money.
But this is not a life sentence—it’s an invitation.
It’s an invitation to stop waiting for someone else to fill your emptiness, and instead to begin filling your own cup. To stop believing that love and money are out of reach, and instead to live in a way that attracts them naturally.
When you love yourself, respect yourself, and create opportunities for yourself, you step out of scarcity and into abundance. And from that place, you’ll notice something remarkable:
Love and money begin to flow toward you.
Not because you begged, not because you fought—but because you became the person who no longer lacks.
✨Your journey starts here. Not with waiting, but with becoming.
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